Perhaps this is the reason why humans (the social beings that we are) idealize the good times of the past and misremember the bad times. Interestingly one bad word can destroy many years’ worth of good words. The primary reason for this lies within our minds that are tied to our emotions, values, ethics, morals, preconceptions, and expectations. Our minds link us to one another therefore they attach us to the one saying the bad words.
Everyone can remember the praise of a parent one moment and then mere minutes later being labelled with the name STUPID, or IDIOT, or WIMP, or some other word most foul and distasteful “you fill in the blank” as only your experience and mind can do, and is doing now. Therefore, from this we now know and can acknowledge as real that the word spoken to us can have a lasting impact on who we become and on what we do and say.
If it is not acceptable for us to hear certain words, then it takes a great deal of pride and / or denial for us to believe that our words do not do the same to others. Perhaps more importantly, our words could be the harm we do to our significant others, children, parents, friends, or anyone we meet ion the course of our lives’.
The remedy for this is to think first, then act, make every effort not to react as that comes from a place of selfishness. We should all consider our words carefully, and if needed say nothing. Be honest with the other people. If necessary step away for a moment, say why you are stepping away, then think through your response. The process of walking way allows you and them a moment to cool off, collect your thoughts, and regain your composure.
